Positivity is something we all want in our lives because it brings out so many wonderful things in us such as productivity, better coping skills, the ability to create rapport and enthusiasm among others. Today I want to talk to you about two things, positive thinking and when positive thinking isn’t the answer.
Anyone who knows me knows that I am a strong believer of positive thinking. Optimism has always been a part of my life but in certain situations, positive thinking isn’t always the answer. I have been in a tough situation a lot of times and people around me seem to think that the only way to get through it is through positivity. As much as I’d like to believe this to be true, in reality, positive thinking can only do so much and sadly, it’s not always the solution to every problem and that’s what I’m going to share with you in this post.
Firstly, I notice that a lot of people are advocates of positive thinking to the point that they pretend everything is okay even when it’s not. It’s a different thing when someone asks you how you’re doing and you say it has been great. That’s only appropriate and can pass off as courtesy. But in life, you can’t just walk around with rose-coloured glasses on in a state of positive thinking when things aren’t so good.
One solution to a problem is to actually face it. You have to be honest with yourself because pretending will only cover up the problem and not uncover it. You need to dig it out, admit to yourself that it’s not going well and that’s the time you start coming up with solutions.
Don’t sit in this denial phase where you justify everything and force yourself to believe that everything is okay when it’s really not. Think about this, if you can’t at least be honest with yourself how can you be honest with everybody else? If things are really sour tell yourself, “I’m not in a good place, I need some help”, only then will you realise that its not positivity that can help you but by other means, perhaps a coach or a mentor to give you guidance when it comes to decision making.
Overcoming this phase can be tough but it is the best decision you can make for yourself, which brings me to my third point, take action.
Being a positive thinker has its perks and one of its advantages is it has the power to change your mindset. However, without action, nothing is going to change. You can’t just sit all day watching Netflix and hope things will get better because, trust me, it won’t unless you do something. It could be reaching out to a mentor, a coach or a specialist or simply someone who you think can help and guide you.
To recap, I want to emphasise that positive thinking is good for you but it’s not always the solution. If things are bad, be honest with yourself. Admit that a problem exists and don’t deny it. Ask for help if necessary because, let’s face it, life and business can be tough and we need someone who has been in our shoes to help us get through it with their words of wisdom and time-tested advice.
My points for today are don’t walk around with rose-coloured glasses, get out of the pretend phase, get out of the denial phase and take real action.
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